Our Station Manager Is Transgender, But It Shouldn't Matter
May 01, 2015 at 4:00 PM
My name is Emily Valrite.
Until now, you have probably known me as a different, male name, or even by my nickname of 'Sev'. I've recently 'come out' as Transgender. I know I don't have to write this article, but I want to. I'd rather you find out from me, the way I want to tell you, than for you to piece it together yourself, or find some breadcrumb trail that I wasn't able to hide.
So first, let's briefly go over "what does Transgender mean?"
Wikipedia describes it as;
"Transgender is the state of one's gender identity or gender expression not matching one's assigned sex. Transgender is independent of sexual orientation; transgender people may identify [as any sexual orientation]. The definition of transgender includes:
"a person whose identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender roles, but combines or moves between these."
"People who were assigned a sex, usually at birth and based on their genitals, but who feel that this is a false or incomplete description of themselves."
"Non-identification with, or non-presentation as, the sex (and assumed gender) one was assigned at birth.""
So what does it mean for ME personally?
Well, I was assigned male at birth, but the gender I am internally (identity, psychologically, mentally, what have you) is female.
Only recently, however, have I had the courage to actually tell anyone openly. And even more recently, started physically transitioning to become female.
How does one transition genders (Male to Female)?
Well, of course the actual process varies person-to-person, but for me, here are just a few of the steps I've taken:
Hormone Replacement Therapy - This changes a lot about the body.. Softer skin, fat redistribution to hips (wider hip appearance), muscle reduction, faster hair growth (on head), thinning and softening of hairs on body (not including facial hair), as well as an array of other effects including emotional and psychological changes, but perhaps most importantly appearance-wise; breast development (it triggers growth similar to when a girl enters puberty, and this process takes a while for full effects).
Cosmetic Changes & Adjustments - removing unwanted body hair, different grooming routines, changing / adding hygiene products used, that stuff is all fairly straightforward.
Clothing & Accessories - New wardrobe (female clothing), accessories, jewelery, wigs (until proper hair length is reached), etc.
Laser Hair Removal - For Facial Hair Removal. This is extraordinarily expensive, time consuming, and a slow painful process.
This of course, is an over-simplification of the process, and only includes some of the steps I have taken. This article is not intended as a resource to provide advice to Transgender people, bur rather I am just outlining my personal journey to the readers of my website.
The main reason I wanted to write this article, is that I would like to return to my journalist position at DMR, with my new identity, but I did not want to leave everyone wondering "what happened to Redacted?" "Is there a new Station Owner now?", or potentially even more awkward/hurtful questions.
If I can give you some basic information, and help make you more comfortable/familiar with transgender issues, then maybe just maybe I will make some small difference in this world. So many transgender people are horribly mistreated, and nearly half of all trans people will become suicidal at some point(s). Worse, though, many trans people are assaulted, beaten, and even killed, merely due to their gender identities.
Even if this is awkward, weird, and puts me in a position to be ridiculed by those who are not understanding.. It's still worth it, because maybe someone who is reading this article didn't know what it means to be transgender, and often, people fear the unknown, or what they don't understand. I want to do my part to help alleviate that.
The Digital Mayhem Radio Staff - You folks rock. You took this news like a grain of salt, and things went on, business as usual, the way it should be. We did lose one staff member, who decided to leave the team because of my coming out, but who needs people like that, anyway? You are a bunch of high calibre people, and I'm honoured to get to work with you all.
You, The Reader (Hopefully!) - You didn't unsubscribe from our Newsfeed, or stop listening to DMR, reading our articles, etc. And you didn't send me a nasty e-mail, threaten me, or mock me. That alone means the world to me.
My Girlfriend, Lorrene - It seemed only fitting to save the girl I love for last. Without her, I probably wouldn't even be doing this. I'd be too afraid, alone.. and wouldn't be able to face all these challenges without her support. Without you I am a paper airplane.. With you I am a fighter jet.. Watch me soar.
Because of this Huge Financial Burden on me now,I cannot divert much of my own resources to sustain DMR.Your help is appreciated, and we will always be here, with your support.
If you want to support me personally, on my journey, you can, but I will never ask, or even mention it again after this. All you gotta do is click above!
Also check out:
Societal Expectations, Gender Stereotypes, and Mob Mentality in North America
An Open Letter To Closeted Trans People
Emily Valrite's YouTube Channel
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